There is no right way to grieve, just as your love is completely unique, so is your grief. The most important thing is to give yourself grace and to let yourself experience whatever feelings rise, even if they’re very uncomfortable. It can be really supportive to have help with this.

It won’t. Just like your love will never end, your grief will stay with you. This being said, as time passes, your life will continue to grow around the grief and so the grief seems relatively smaller and less all-consuming. Through letting yourself grieve and finding meaningful ways to remember what’s been lost, you can get to a point where you remember with more love than pain.

There is no right way to do this, finding meaning within grief is a deeply personal journey that will shift depending on what grief you are wanting to honor.

Creative expression, rituals, acts of service, everyday remembrance and legacy (like carrying forward someone’s values or creating something in their memory) can all help you connect with your grief in a meaningful way.

I struggled with this a lot because it highlighted how many folks ask this question without being prepared for any answer deeper than “good” or “fine”.

There’s no “perfect” answer. It’s okay to be brief, honest or set boundaries depending on how much you want to share. Discerning who is worth going deeper with is an important skill to hone when your energy is limited.

It’s totally normal to question this! And each person processing profound loss in their own way.

You may be surprised to experience sadness, anger, relief, guilt, numbness or even moments of joy, sometimes all in the same day.

These unpredictable waves of emotion are all part of what it means to love deeply. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you are not alone. Sharing your experience with trusted loved ones, guides and mental health professionals can help you feel seen and supported as you navigate your own unique journey through grief.

If you’re experiencing suicidal thoughts or self harm please seek urgent support. We are not meant to do hard tings alone.

Feeling disconnected after a loss is very common. Grief can make the world feel unfamiliar, it can feel like an audacity that the sun continues to rise and busy daily life continues as ever.

Even the people closest to you may not fully understand your experience. Your emotions may feel intense and so many folks are not grief literate and don’t know how to hold such emotions without jumping to fix or reassure. This can create dissonance.

This disconnection doesn’t mean you’re failing or that others don’t care about you. It’s often a natural part of processing profound loss that relationships can shift and change, some are fortified and others will fade away.

By sharing your feelings, connecting with those who’ve experienced loss and allowing yourself to sit with your emotions can help remind you that you’re not alone.

Ironically, grief is what connects us all.